We celebrated mother’s day last month, and that day called for celebration as people gave thanks to their mothers, mother-children bonds and motherhood in general. Flowers, cakes, chocolates were purchased and given to mothers, wives, grandmothers and friends as a way to show gratitude, thanks and appreciation for taking on one of the most challenging yet wonderful roles that anyone can have.
While many celebrated that weekend, there were also those who quietly observed Mother’s Day because they no longer had mothers to kiss, hug or buy flowers for.
Indeed, it may be a difficult time to celebrate as you mourn and miss someone, and if you are missing your mom, the third Sunday of May may always make you feel somber.
Like many others, though, what you should know that we should not stop celebrating and appreciating somebody even after they have died.
For next year’s Mother’s Day, you may want to give everything you have to tell your mother you love her one last time, or give her a cute potted plant, or buy that bracelet she always wanted – and you still can. Here are some great ways to celebrate mother’s day without the fanfare, and let your mom know that you love her, even though she is no longer there.
Honor her memory
The best thing you can do is to honor her memory. Share the love and joy that she has shared with you when she was still alive. How was your mom as a parent? How was she as a person? What were her best points? You might want to emulate these strong points as a way of honoring her as well. Remember her and cherish her memories – if she loved to keep family traditions, try to keep them alive for the rest of your family. Keep her presence in family events by acknowledging her presence.
Talk to her
The dead can hear us, and they listen. They listen to our prayers, our laments, our anger and our sadness. Go ahead and talk to your mom. Talk to her aloud or in your mind, tell her how much you love her and miss her. Ask questions, solicit advice. Talk to her like you would have when she was still alive.
On mother’s day, you can give her a quick message greeting her and thanking her for all the sacrifices she has made as you were growing up. She will appreciate it.
Introduce her to your kids
If you are already a parent, make sure that you introduce your mom to your kids. Even if your kids have already met her before she passed on, it is good to rekindle memories and remind them of her through photographs and stories. Visit her grave whenever you can – including Mother’s Day weekend. You can bring flowers to her grave, too.
Do something in her honor
This Mother’s Day, try doing something in her honor. Donate to a meaningful cause in the memory of your mom. Volunteer for a few hours, spend time working with an organization. It is definitely great if you can give your resources or time to something that is meaningful to her.
Those who have departed before us do not really die – they just transform and are now in another plane that’s more different than ours. The grief always comes because because we can no longer see them and be with them physically.
With this understanding, one of the best things that you can do (and will also make your departed loved one at ease) is to move on with life. Don’t keep yourself holed in at home, refusing to see other people and stopping everything else because of your grief. Accept the loss and continue with life. Moving on does not mean that you have forgotten about her, but that you honor her memory by picking things up and taking care of yourself well, just as she would want you to do so if she was right there.
Just as we try to get in touch with the departed, they too go to great lengths to get in touch with us, especially if there is something important that they want to tell us. Most of the time, though, we cannot comprehend it so we are left in the dark. If you want to make your Mother’s Day more meaningful, you can get in touch with her with the help of a psychic medium.